So I ended up skipping my entry last week, but not without reason.
A girl died last Sunday.
Well, thousands did all over the world, I’m sure, but the girl I’m referencing specifically was a daughter to one of my co-workers. I won’t give any details, but this girl was too young for anyone to ever say, “well at least she lived a long life,” and really it just isn’t fair. She didn’t deserve it, and my co-worker certainly didn’t deserve to endure it. So, out of respect, and quite frankly my distraction at the events, I decided to skip the entry altogether.
It’s been a week now, and while life has gone on for the rest of us here in the office, I can’t help but think of how my co-worker must be doing. I imagine that waking up each day must be the hardest part. To sleep and forget about it must be such a relief; then comes that single second of amnesia just after waking, only to have that followed by the most gut-wrenching punch of realization that it wasn’t just a bad dream. I’m not a parent, and I can’t fathom that level of heartbreak, but it does make me think about all the people in my life who I love.
Events like that really make people stop and consider what’s really important in life. It isn’t your job, it isn’t your possessions, your value or your debt. What’s important are those you love and the time you get to spend with them. As obvious as that statement seems, so many of us forget it anyway as we stress over work or bills or broken things.
It’s easy to put death and loss in the background of your worries (and seriously, that isn’t a bad thing because thinking about it all the time would be unhealthy as hell), but just remember to tell everyone you love how you feel. Ask him/her out. Call the people you care about if you haven’t talked to them in a while. Go out for coffee. Go on a date. Send a text to remind them that you are thinking of them. Write a letter. Start a video chat. Go visit. Whatever you do, just do something.
Time is fleeting, so don’t waste it on shit that doesn’t matter.